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Free State: Bloemfontein 

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© 2016 | The Character Company No.: 125-574 NPO | B-BBEE SED Recognised 

Marinus de Kok - MENtor

Originally from the town of Vereeniging, I moved to Cape Town with my folks at a very young age. I matriculated here and then went on to study Industrial Psychology at Stellenbosch University. My spare time was spent mainly making music, in music ministry, or working for my father at his service station.  I completed my Master's degree in Industrial Psychology, with the focus of my research on remedying unemployment through affirmative development. 

 

At home I am married for four years to the sweetest woman you can imagine. My wife and I are known as "the love birds." She is a teacher by profession and her name is Yvette. We are expecting our first (a little girl) this year and we are very excited.

 

I have seen what fatherlessness is causing in our society. I believe it to be central to so many problems in the world, particularly violence against women - which upsets me deeply. I have seen what a good father looks like through what my own dad is, and has been, for me. Furthermore, so many caring older male figures have guided and supported me in my life - without whom, I would not be where I am today. 

LEAD SA - 5 values men say NO to violence against women and children!

Online Article - LEAD SA | November 2016

This company is filling the gap that absent fathers leave, and it is phenomenal​!

Online Article - www.goodthingsguy.com | August 2016

Here’s to the Dads

Online Article - Joburg Online | June 2016

2015

 

LEAD SA - Character Company growing boys of integrity

Online Article - 702 | August 2015

2014

 

 

A Fathers Love can Help

Blog Article - First National Bank | February 2014

2013

 

Help boys become better men

Interview with Jaco van Schalkwyk

Randburg Sun | November 2013

 

Together SA

Directory Listing | October 2013

DISCOVERY 947
RIDE JOBURG

947 Discovery Ride Joburg  Is an awesome opportunity and day out to ride for a purpose. Your involvement and support will help us raise boys to be real men of character.

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Curriculum Guide 

Our curriculum guide is there to help you as MENtor to be more intentional with the boys. Every month has a theme with 5 weekly talk topics. It also includes articles for reading and activities to do with the boys. Some or most months will only have 4 weeks, so this gives you, the MENtor, the opportunity to choose which talk topics will be more relevant to your specific group of boys.

MENtors are required to prepare for their sessions by reading through the talk topics included in the curriculum guide but are encouraged to incorporate their own ideas and activities as long as it supports the monthly theme and weekly topics. Remember that these topics were chosen for a specific reason.

REMEMBER: Simply providing resources for a mentee is not mentoring. That is the minimum requirement to setup an appropriate learning environment. Mentoring takes place in the personal interactions with the mentee.

The curriculum guide will be revised and improved on a regular basis and will continue to develop with your help. While we try to include up to date and relevant content, there are resources of which we are unaware, and there is firsthand expertise and experience that can enhance and supplement the existing material, but we can only get this additional content from a greater community of mentors. So please feel free to comment on the layout, grammar, content and activity suggestions. We welcome your input! Feedback can be sent to willie.ch@racter.co.za

MONTHLY THEMES

RESPECT...

how to give it and earn it!

In November we talk about respect. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 5 page document covering 5 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

Taking responsibility and make sure you persistently acquire respect for yourself from others

EARNING RESPECT | Short Video for older (teen) boys

RAISING BOYS WITH HEALTHY ATTITUDES| Article of Interest

RESPECT AND CONSENT Interesting Short Video

BREAKING THE BOY CODE| Article with Short Video

SELF-DISCIPLINE...

as a key to unlocking personal potential

In October we talk about self-discipline. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 5 page document covering 5 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

Interesting blog article on teaching kids about self-discipline (self regulation) using 7 different strategies

ME WANT IT BUT ME WAIT | Sesame Street Song & Video

5 ACTIVITY IDEAS| A Short video

SOCIAL & EMOTIONAL COMPETENCIES Interesting Video

LESSONS FROM ANGRY BIRDS | Animated Short Video

BEING A PROTECTOR...

of others and especially of yourself...

In September we talk about being a protector. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 5 page document covering 5 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

social experiment to show just how easy it is to walk off with a child from a park

BRUTAL BOYS & MEAN GIRLS | Informative article on bullying

EVERYDAY LEADERSHIP| A Short video

KIDS CHANGE THE WORLD|It takes 5 minutes a day - short video

UNDERSTAND THE BOYS CODE | Informative video - TED Talk

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1 | Boys & Men in an Age of #MeToo

HONESTY...

what it is and why it matters

In August we talk about honesty. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 5 page document covering 5 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

A short video about Howard the Rabbit and his lesson about lying

KIDS TALK ABOUT HONESTY | A Quick Video

RESPONDING TO LYING| A Short video

THE HONEST CHILD |Video Discussions about lying

22 MORAL STORIES | Fables and Tales

KINDNESS to...

myself, my mom, others and the environment

In July we talk about kindness. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 4 page document covering 4 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

Take on a 30 Day Kindness Challenge or get your boys to complete 10 acts of kindness (make your own video)

MAKING FRIENDS WITH FEAR | A Quick Video

REDUCE, REUSE & RECYCLE| A Short video

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS | 20 Acts - Video

SOCIAL EXPERIMENT | How many people do you think helped?

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1 | A world upside down

COURAGE...

with myself, others, my family and God

In June we talk about courage. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 6 page document covering 6 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

A great exercise to help boys identify their fears and work to overcome them.

COLOUR YOUR WORLD WITH KINDNESS| A Quick Video

FEAR OF FAILURE| An Insightful blog about overcoming fear

TO EVERYDAY KID HEROES | Kid President Video

SING-A-LONG | Daniel and the Lion’s Den

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1Everyday Heroes

WEEK 2 | Courage Amplifies our Lives

WEEK 3 | Breaking Personal Ceilings

WEEK 4 | Let’s Take This Outside!

RELATIONSHIPS...

with myself, others, my family and God

In May we talk about relationships. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 6 page document covering 6 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

The most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves.

HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS | A Quick Video

BOYS & GIRLS| An Insightful blog about talking to boys about girls

20 TIPS TO CHANGE THE WORLD | Kid President Video

AWESOME GIRLS | Kid President Video

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1 | Faith - the courage to believe

WEEK 2 | Developing a Relationship with Self

WEEK 3 | It starts with you - RESPECT - available in our curriculum pack

WEEK 4 | Identify and end toxic relationships - available in our curriculum pack

CONFLICT MANAGEMENT...

Understanding how to manage conflict

In April we talk about managing conflict. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 6 page document covering 6 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

Conflict Resolution tools are useful in helping boys learn to diffuse tense situations and resolve conflicts

CONFLICT RESOLUTION | Quick Video

ANGER CHART| A Tool to Help Gauge Emotional Intensity

EMOTIONAL CHECK-IN | A youtube video

ANGRY BIRDS | Emotional Control Video

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1 | Aggressive vs. Assertive

WEEK 2 | Camping with Character

WEEK 3 | Fighting Fair - Ground rules for boys

WEEK 4 | Values to live by

COMMUNICATION...

How we talk and listen

In March we talk about communication. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 5 page document covering 5 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

Emoticons (Emotion Icons) or rather now emojis are a way to communicate concepts on a single image

EMOTICONS | Take a quick EmojiQuiz

EMOJI-PEDIA | A Dictionary of the latest Emojis

SEE & HEAR MORSE CODE | A youtube video

SA SIGN LANGUAGE | Learn the basic alphabet

BODY LANGUAGE BASICS | Positive Body Language T0 Tips

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1 | Mom & Son Communication

WEEK 2 | Listening to Understand

WEEK 3 | Empathy vs. Sympathy - Raising boys to be kind, caring adults

WEEK 4 | Better to Express than Suppress

KNOW WHO YOU ARE...

Who am I?

In February we talk about understanding who you are. To download the full month’s curriculum, click the MONTH button above. Or download the Talk Topic guide separately below:

Includes a brief summary of the weekly talk topics and key messages to be included

Includes a 6 page document covering 6 weeks talk topics - included a brief summary of each talk

PERSONALITY TEST | A fun personality quiz, just for kids!

SOUTH AFRICA | National Symbols

NATIONAL ANTHEM | Nkosi Sikelel’ - video

SUGGESTED ACTIVITIES:

Encourage your boys to create their own cv, listing what makes them so special.

PERSONALITY TEST | A fun personality quiz, just for kids!

SOUTH AFRICA | National Symbols

NATIONAL ANTHEM | Nkosi Sikelel’ - video

For additional reading, please visit our blog, or follow the links set out below:

WEEK 1 | Faith - the courage to believe

WEEK 2 | Values, how do the shape us?

WEEK 3 | Knowing yourself, and loving you anyway

WEEK 4 | Personal turned public

 

 

Every month has a THEME with weekly Talk Topics. You will notice that some months may have more Talk Topics then there are weeks, this gives you - the MENtor, the opportunity to choose which Talk Topic might be more relevant to you specific group of boys. However it is important that you stick to the month’s THEME at all times.  

MENtors are required to prepare and orientate themselves by reading through the Talk Topics included in their hard copy manuals or through the links provided on this page. We are working to specifically expand the Talk Topics, creating a number of talks suited to each developmental age. MENtors are encouraged to incorporate their own ideas into designing an activity from the Activities Ideas downloads we provide for each month.

A weekly feedback report should be completed - by MENtors to help with overall programme monitoring and evaluation. The feedback must be submitted to the National Head Office within the week of your activity. Should you have more urgent feedback, please contact Loraine immediately.

 

Remember! You lead by example...

 

Our MENtors exemplify our 5 Values:

Have you...

  • Liked our Facebook page?

  • Shared a recent TCC Facebook post?

  • Included your work with The Character Company in your CV and updated your Social Media, eg.: LinkedIn, Facebook, to show that you are helping to raise good men?

5 Values pencil bag

 certificate

Your R80 donation will allow us to give a pencil bag to a boy growing up with an absent father. You will receive a personalised certificate like this sample that you can give to someone as a Christmas Gift this year - how much more valuable than branded clothing or another video game ... 

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